Thinking About Coming to a Social Event (Men)? This Is for You

At Kindred Social, we often hear an honest and important question:

“Why are there usually more women than men at social events?”

This article isn’t about blame or pressure. It’s a conversation, one rooted in understanding, encouragement, and respect. Because if you’re a man over 50 who wants companionship, partnership, or simply meaningful connection, you’re not alone and you’re exactly who we’re hoping to reach.

Many Men Want Connection Even If They Don’t Always Say It

Wanting companionship doesn’t make you weak. It makes you human.

Many men deeply value connection, but they’re often taught to carry that desire quietly. Instead of talking about loneliness or uncertainty, they power through on their own.

Over time, that can make stepping into a social setting feel heavier than it needs to be.

Choosing not to attend an event is rarely about lack of interest and it’s usually about hesitation.

Common (and Completely Normal) Reasons Men Hesitate

1. “I Don’t Want to Feel Awkward”

Walking into a room where you don’t know anyone can feel uncomfortable. Most men worry about small talk, first impressions, or whether they’ll fit in.

Here’s the truth: nearly everyone in the room feels the same way including the women.

2. “I’m Not Sure This Is for Me”

Some men worry that social events will feel forced, cliquey, or like they’re expected to perform. At Kindred Social, the goal isn’t to impress, it’s to connect naturally, at your own pace.

3. “I’ll Go When I Feel More Ready”

This is one of the most common thoughts. But confidence doesn’t usually come before showing up. It grows because you showed up.

What Many Men Don’t Realize

Your presence already makes a difference.

You don’t need perfect conversation skills. You don’t need a polished story. You don’t need to know anyone walking in.

By simply showing up, you’re doing something meaningful:

• You’re signaling openness

• You’re creating opportunity

• You’re meeting women who genuinely appreciate effort and authenticity

  
  

Women consistently tell us that they value sincerity, kindness, and presence far more than confidence or charm.

Why In-Person Connection Still Matters

Dating apps and online platforms can feel exhausting, impersonal, or discouraging, especially later in life. In-person events remove the guessing.

You get to:

• See real reactions

• Share real conversation

• Build comfort naturally

  
  

There’s no algorithm. Just people.

A Different Way to Think About Attending

Instead of asking: “Will I meet the right person?”

Try asking: “What might happen if I go?”

No pressure. No expectations. Just curiosity.

Each event is simply a step and not a verdict on your future.

An Invitation, Not an Expectation

If you’re reading this and wondering whether you should come to a Kindred Social event, consider this your invitation and not a challenge, and not a judgment.

You don’t need to have it all figured out. You just need to be willing to walk through the door.

Connection doesn’t find us when we’re waiting for the perfect moment. It finds us when we decide to show up.

We’ll be glad to meet you.